Should I wait for my guy who has 27 years left in jail?

I've been with this guy on and off for a year before he went to jail. we had a rocky relationship but overal we chose each other over other people. however he was just sentenced to thirty years in the slammer. I love him and the dudes out here are just assholes because all they want from me is s*x. should I wait for my guy? plus, is he really going to serve all 27 more years. in jail?

What did he do to get 30 years?

Wow, 30 years. This is going to be tough on both of you, mainly him. This is a punishment for something he has done, this means no leisure or anything. Girlfriends are part of that leisure and now he is restricted from this.

You do not want to wait 27 years! Think of the regrets and consequences. You will want to wish you had a partying fun life, meeting new people, getting on with your life. Hey your man may even come out a different person... a person you may not like or love. To be honest, I would just break it to him gently that you cannot continue a relationship with him, but you WILL stand by him all the way through his sentence. Go out there girl... meet new people, and I can tell you this if you found one guy who wasn't an as*h*le, then there are plenty more, you just need to explore.

Keep visiting the person in jail and be his friend, be his angel, let him talk to you and let him cry his eyes out over you because both you and him know that you love each other and you will be there for him in soul and person.

If his sentence is cut short and he comes out on parole. Then maybe you can rekindle something, even if you have found someone then.

Good luck

hey...I kinda know what you are going' through...my man is in jail right now for the second time...they say he is going' to get anywhere between 10 and 30 years and I don't know if I can do it...stay with him I mean...but I want to...I love him to death and we were actually just talkin' about him going' back to jail about 10 minutes before the police came...I would have to tell you that in my opinion you should talk to him and if you say he is not an as*h*le he will offer some kinda of sympathy...I know mine did...the night he got arressted I was the first person that he called it was to tell me he loved me and that he understood if I couldn't stay with him if he got sentenced...I did promise him though that I would stay with him until his sentencin' and always be there for him after, durrin' and before his sentencin' wether I'm with him or not...I think that if you talk to you guy...and if he is the guy you say he is...ya'll can figure something out like we did...I hope this helped and I hope that you will e-mail me back...srry I didn't put on your answer board but I am really iffy about tell everyone what is going' on in my life but I thought it would help you out a lot.

do what you feel is right

I think you have a big decision to make and one that you will have to decide for yourself. However if you just do the math it might shed some light on things for you. According to your profile you are now 23 y/o and if you have to wait 27 years for him you will be 50 years old. Most of your life will have passed by you. I don't know what state you are from so it's hard to say if he'll have to do all 27 years. Most states give time off for good behavior, usually around 1/4 of the sentence and some states also give time off for working while incarcerated , about another 1/4 or a total of 1/2 off the sentence. That's still 13 years and that's a lot of time to wait and not date another man. You say the dudes there are all a s s holes but I doubt if they are any different where you live than any where else. People are more alike than they are different, no matter where you live. My advice would be to not throw away your life for a man who you might not be with for the next 13 years, esp if he has done something so bad he got 27 years in prison. I've known people in MD who got less time for murder. Just my two cents worth, (maybe not worth 2 cents).

I would not...because we all only have one life to live...ok
so if you wait for him...u will waste that life.
u can date and go out and have some fun with another guy...30 years is a long time...no telling how old your, but by the time he gets out...u will probably be old ...im just saying that because I dont know your age..but it may be true, I would not wait for a guy that gets in trouble that bad.

hell noo dont wait for that b*tch!

no you shouldn't wait get someone else I pray that the lord will help you with your decision