1st birthday etiquette

My mother in law ran out and bought all the decorations for my daughter's first birthday...without permission...should I make a big fuss or deal with pink and magenta instead of purple and yellow?

Firstly congradulations on your baby girl!!!!! and congrats that you made it through the first yr.

NOW lets see, my older cousin was in the same predicament, I'll tell ya one thing it all depends on your relationship with your mother-in-law, I know I know I watched the movie Monster-in-law also........ok if you are very open with eachother and it won't create anything amongst you two and your husband, then go ahead and subtly try to diffuse the situation. In this case, your going to have to butter up your husband and keep him on your side........otherwise pink and magenta are really not that collosal a difference from purple and yellow(well maybe yellow)........look yes the 1st birthday is important, but trust me not as important as the 2nd, 3rd.....and so on.

No you say, its true, if this is your first child then definitely, if the kid coughs you'll turn the world upside down if you could.......but theres no need to create a huge fuss, you know y? because the subsequent birthdays are EVEN BETTER, because the kid is going to start standing, walking, talking, eating (her birthday cake), losing teeth, playing sports or cheerleading, have a boyfriend, prom, graduation....... and those are the moments you don't want to miss

1st birthday, OK let your mother-in-law think she got the win and let her have the glory of the first birthday, but moral of the story, Baby start planning early and beat her at her own game for the subsequent ones, and definitely keep the husband on your side of the fence........hahahaha.........

I would go with it, I know as a mother it is very important to you but look at it this way, the kid is not going to care of what color you have on her birthday........so instead of fretting over that you should enjoy your baby girl and just show off your little bundle of pride and joy......

Keep ya head up and good luck with everything

hope this helps

It was thoughtful for your MIL to help with her granddaughter's birthday. It was thoughtless for her not to include the mother of the child in the decision (you). It will never end until you stress that the two of you can work together, for this and in the future. Don't hurt her feeling but don't give her any wiggle room either. I suggest you get a book on this subject, MIL interference is legendary and it can get ugly. Hey, maybe you can plan your MIL's birthday. I think brown and black go to well.

thats just wrong!explain to her that "it is your daughter,and you have something else planned"
if you prefer not to confront her,,,then have two parties for her.