14 pregant by abusive 17 boy firend

I'm pregant by by boyfrien d he is really like by the girls but he is controlling he dont let me do anthing thing only when I 'm with him and we do go out he says that I be leaving to look at other boys and it not like that and I'm pregent he dont really abuse me at the most he hit me like 7 times he grab my arm slap me push me etc but I love him special if I am going to keep this baby I dont have to wory about monet becasue my mom is really nice she is a chrtain but how do I tell that b is abusive to me . I dont want to sound stupid but I need help

Dear Detroit,
You have a few choices you can make....BUT you have to take these steps if you want your life to be happier.
If you are being hit and knocked around by your boyfriend (father of the baby) then just break-up with him. Tell him you no longer want to see him anymore!! AND DO IT!!
Now what will happen (if he thinks your're serious) is he will start bringing the subject of the baby up.. I am the father..the kid belongs to me..you're not taking my kid etc......ALL of it is a load of crap..don't listen to one word he says. The fact that you made a mistake and let this guy get you pregnant does not mean that he can beat on you even if it's alittle AND it doesn't matter if you look at another guy or backtalk etc.. AND don't play it down saying 'he doesn't really abuse me that bad etc....Quit being an emotional punching bag..a physical punching bag....MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM...have some pride and stand up to this guy and tell him because of the way he acts you will no longer be his girlfriend. When he starts talking about the kid.. tell him that he will have to go through the courts AND if he touches you again you will file a restraining order......It sounds like you have good support from mom (your're lucky). Go to her....right away.
Now.... if you do nothing....nothing will happen, you will continue to be beat on physically and emotionally by this guy AND guess what???? The beatings only escalate over the years..so you get to have that to look forward to.
GET AWAY TODAY / TONIGHT It will be uncomfortable at first but it will be better and you have no idea how much better it will be for you and the baby. Just do it right away.
Familycoach

even if he hits you or grabs your arm, its abuse. you should leave and tell your mom. if shes supportive, like you say, shell support the child anywway. sometimes you have to leave the ones you love for peopl you love more like your child, and for your child you should get out of that relationship

Please leave him, he is just too insecure.. it's not like your going to run off with another man when your pregnant with his baby, and he should know that.

He has no right to hit u, that is abuse, even if he hit you only once.. it still counts! you are pregnant and you just can't stay with this guy, you need to be somewhere you can relax, and it is not good for your babies health or urs being around this man. What if you stayed with him and your child saw him being abusive with him? What if he hit your child? Speak to your mom or an older friend, someone who you know will offer you support.

Good luck, and remember this is urs and your babies happiness.

well if he is abusein you and he knos that you is pregnant then you dont need to be wit him unless you like it but even if you do you dont want to loose your baby cause he want to be childish and hit you to me he is an ass whole and you know that you can find better and if your mom is supportive I would ask her for sum help wit your problem cause he dont have any right to be hitten on you u need to tell him to keep his hands off u

I dont know you and you don't know me but just by reading your storie I could see we are one in the same leave you can make it without him your young strong and a mother life is bigger then you now riase above your doubts when you think about staying with him think about your baby do you want your little boy to think its okay to hit a woman or even hit his own mother cuase best believe if he sees his daddy do it he will to and if you have a little girl would you want somebody to slap her around and call her names if you let it continue she will think thats natural and she'll end up with a man just like her daddy I dont know what your going to do but remember no matter what your life is no longer just about your happiness your heart your needs its about your baby

First of all what the hell are you having intercourse for you are to young you should be enjoying your life not worring about big responsibilities like that. I think that you need to grow up first then maybe you can talk about that but remember you are still a kid.

Dear Detroit,
In most every single abusive relationship...The abuse escalates...For you is no different.
What you are feeling is the fact that you want him to be nice, not abusive.
The fact is that he is not a nice person..He is a bully. You are in a relationship with a bully.
He will bully anyone that will let him bully. These idiots get off on that crap. They get high off of abusing somebody else. They always choose relationships...girlfriend,wife,mom etc.. The reason they choose family is because anyone else goes away. The abuser trys to latch on and control you into staying so he can have you as the drug when he needs that rush. I hate the 'bully' personality. The best thing for you is to go away from this guy. You will be fine,take care of your baby...he can visit when he wants as long as he can behave..if he can't get a restraining order from the police (another subject). You know this by the way...Down deep YOU know what you should do..But guess what?? It's your life...Do whatever you want to do with your life...We se all the time women putting up with this crap...it escalates over the years...a lot of times it escalates to the abuser beating her or killing her. If you decide to stay with him remember your baby will be right along for the horrible ride in life that this guy is going to give you. Maybe if you stay you could give the baby up for adoption.
Familycoach

he could kill th baby think about that

look I was in a similar situation
my boyfriend whom I am currently pregnant by
was really abusive he hurt me but I loved him
we figured out that if we spent more time apart
when we did see each other all it would be was love
he still doesnt want me to do some things but thats
ok cause I love him more then the world and he realizes this