14 and pregnant

im 14 and pregnant and I dont know what to do, because the dad has turned his back on me and said I've got to get rid of it because he doesnt want itt, so hes only thinking of himself, and not giving me a choice, but I dont know what to do because im so...

young and the dads 17. I really need advice because im stuck

That's just why I don't want sex and and happy being a virgin as having the risk of that happening to me.

I'm 13 and think it's a bit silly at 14 to get pregnant at such a young age.

Maybe you learn by mistakes but whats done is done now and whats inportant here is doing what you feel is right.

I would try and talk to your mum and dad but know it will be hard as I would feel the same as you but it's better doing it now and getting it out of the way than waiting until they see the bump and ask and blow a fue for not telling them.

Also you need to really think hard on what you want to do too as in 9 months you are going to be mum and have to bring this kid up and everything. If it was me I would keep it as don't agree with killing something that's not had a chance to live.

It's your life and your need to make the chosses but whatever you do talk to mum and dad first. As for the dad it sounds that he just wanted sex and did not really care about you getting preg or he would of stood by you no matter what.

talk to your parent (if theyre understanding ones) whow will acually talk and not yell at you and ask them

You need support, the best place to get that is from your parents. Talk to them, they're going to be angry and disappointed but they love you and they will support you.

As for the guy...you're better off without him. You are the only one that can make the choice...not him. You need to do what is best for you, not him.

you ALWAYS have a choice, and he can't take that away from you, no matter how bad he wants to. You always have the option of adoption- even if you are for abortion, do you think you'd be able to live with yourself knowing you've taken away your childs right to live? If you're worried he'll find out and get mad if you keep it, or if you don't want your friends to know, there are special schools/places you can go until you have the baby.
Good luck. =]

Well you need to talk to friends and parents and just sit your parents down and talk to them.

Just to let you know and not to make you sad. But many babys that have mothers that are 13, 14 , and even15 don't usually make it through the pregnauncy.

But if you do have the baby and it makes it, it would be a good Idea to put him or her up for adoption so it cuold have a better life than a teenage mother. It would be very hard for you.

Talk with you're parents.
Personally, I don't believe in abortions.
But I don't know how it feels to be pregnant and scared,
Niether does any guy in this world.
Don't worry about him, let krama get him.
Remember; this isn't something you can hide or make go away.

Thanks for all the advice. But its not so easy when it comes to this guy, I know I dont need him, but hes always on my back texting me threatening me about getting rid of it. And I know the best thing would be to speak to my parents about it, but I just couldnt because of the things that have happened in the past x

I think its wrong all these people telling you abortion is murder! it is totally your choice! it is your body! you just have to think to yourself do you really want a child that is always going to remind you of the father that has just walked out on you and threatened u! your only 14 and have your whole future and education in front of you can you really do what you want with a baby to look after who takes up all your time? It depends what you want out of life im just saying that abortion is a choice also you have to consider if you did coose adoption as an alternative feelings change when the baby is born could you really give it up and forget about it? you could always put this behind you put it down to experience and learn from your mistakes and move on with your life without having the father threatening you and being around being nasty later in life. After all you want to dosuch as clubbing university travelling then when you find the right guy then you could settle down and have a baby wouldn't that be better for you? it is your choice you need to speak to someone there are always people to speak to other relatives councillers I suggest not just friends as you might need an older perspective who can give you more advice about your options and then its up to you to consider ALL your options x hope this helps as an alternative viewpoint x

yeah thanks for your advice, because I agree with absolutely EVERYTHING youve said :D. I dont think its right for me to keep this baby especially when its got a dad thats well like that. im just in a way scared of abortion :\ because I also dont know wether my mum would have to know or not :\ etc xx

Wow. 14? I hope you learn your lesson.
Go talk to your parents, now. You need their help more than you think right now. You're going to have to or it's going to make it so much harder on you. And as for your so called boyfriend, you don't need him. Keep the baby. Do not listen to him.

well I wasnt exactly chuffed when I found out I was pregnant as you can tell so I dont need the lectures off anybody.. I dont need to talk to my parents I've decided exactly what im going to do. x

What exactly are you going to do? Please funmail me!

you DO have a choice to keep or abort the baby. But just cause two choices are available doesn't mean they are equal. Tishtashtosh is right about that's probably the life everyone wants but... Life has surprises. Having unprotected sex is a choice that opens you up to lotsa surprises (even protection fails sometimes and allows stds or pregnancy). Our lives change when our choices have major affects. There is a certain level of selfishness to overcome when we want to avoid the situations our OWN choices got us into because it has a hard consequence. But the reward of doing the right thing is always worth it in the long run!

I want the absolute best for you and hope you can find your parents or someone to confide in, because I think you know deep down that baby deserves the right to live. You were fortunate your mom decided to keep you... The great life you want is the same life your baby needs a chance to have. Besides, I think you would always regret abortion. Just because the baby is earlier than planned in your life doesn't mean it can't turn out a huge joy and good thing to happen to you. Adoption is always an option.

The father is just immature and unprepared and doesn't want to face his consequences. If he's truly threatening you, file a report to authorities. There will always be people telling you to do the thing with the least responsibility that sweeps the problem under the rug. However, YOU are the one that will have to deal with your conscience and whether you did the right thing.

Love and blessings to precious you and your baby! God knows He loves both of you and I hope you make the decision to love yourself and your baby too.

it's your baby if your willing to work hard to keep your baby then talk to your dad. or open adoption is posible

I don't beleive that you need to tell your parents of your abortion as long as you over 12... I think it depends where you live?

Well I didnt really get a decision wether I wanted the baby. I lost it just thought id keep you all up to date, as youve helped me. maybe losing it was a sign I dont know x

awww I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing well. best wishes in life...