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Ex Marine.
Born and raised in La Jolla/San Diego, CA but moved to Anchorage, AK 44 years ago.
Currently a retired taxicab driver after 30 years.
Single. Divorced 3 times. Had 3 children (2 still living), have 7 grandchildren and 1 great granddaughter.
i'm a moderate Republican. My hobbies are playing poker and chess.
i'm a Deist but i do believe in evolution. My religious beliefs, which i wrote several years ago (A Search for Truth), can be viewed at the URL above.
i may not agree with you but i cherish your right to disagree (even if you are wrong).
sue90's Advice
Dear smithymcsmith, As people get older their opposite sex friendships are no longer just friendships this is fact. The fact you got upset was probably a gut feeling and you probably are right that he has feelings for her. So now you are experiencing ...
Dear nickieh, Let me guess he was the one to want to break up because you weren't physical enough...right. Ya, well what he was saying was I only want sex from you and I don't care for you enough to wait. Now tell me is that boyfriend material??? NO. ...
Dear wab87, Well you would be telling him because you expect something to come of it...you need to be honest first with yourself. You want a relationship again with him and you know there will be no way to have just a friendship with him. This is part...
Dear danymarie, First of all print out what you wrote and let your mother read it. See where it goes from there. You cannot do anything, she is an adult and has been in many relationships. There is something keeping her in this one. She knows how to l...
Dear peace123, Well you are here asking this question so you know there is a problem with the way your boyfriend controls you...He has no right to tell you who to see and who you can't, he sneaks out seeing his friends...so it would appear you have al...
Dear fau, All I am reading is I didn't want to but he made me do it anyways...this is a very big red flag here. I don't care if you liked him for 2 or 200 years when someone says no it's no and he has no right to try to make you do anything. He was t...
Dear fau, first of all you should not have friends that young, and you are having sex with her brother when you go to visit her? Is that what you are saying? If that is the case you need to stop going over there, and of course stop having 13 year old...
Dear sujan, It's difficult when you live so far apart. But the most telling is that he said not to call him and he isn't working or in school? If he isn't working in his own country chances are he won't work in yours either. You should be able to ca...
Dear sujan, Sleeping a lot would mean you wouldn't be getting out and moving around...it might make you pale from being unhealthy. Drinking milk would do nothing for your skin colour other then maybe giving you a healthy glow from being healthy. Milk...
Dear kayleelovesjoejonas, You are not ready for dating...when you are comfortable being alone, can do things independently without someone else and have good confidence then you are ready to date. He does not respect you and you must never, ever be wi...
Dear debs523, I haven't heard of these many excuses for a long time...you have a bad marriage for 12 years and you are waiting for him to file??? What?...you file and move out. You have a job, that means a pay check. It's obvious you have no communica...
Dear jjcrzy18, If you do start seeing your father it must be in the company of others. You must never be alone with him. When it comes to this type of behaviour your father was sent to jail for he needs life long counselling. This is not something tha...
Dear 12341234, Well...you dated a long time and you were somewhat comfortable and in habit with this relationship. This is why you still feel the loss and the jealousy. Very normal. Lets go step by step here: She might have someone new...yes she proba...
Dear babybump, After reading these posts you need to consider going to children's services. It is clear you are not mature enough to handle your own life let a lone a child. It's a brave and caring mother who puts their child's welfare a head of "bein...
Dear fau, They are right...you cannot diagnose a 2 year old with ADHD and in fact without many tests including a MRI they cannot be diagnosed properly. The terrible 2s is really a fallacy. At the age 2 or so they begin to express their frustration wit...
Dear lilpoofle, Many people may be uncomfortable with it because of their home teaching. The older people did/some still don't understand that your sexual preference is biological and is not a choice. Different preferences have been around since the b...
Dear anac6978, Many places allow first cousin marriages...however, you are not allowed to have children. I am not sure where you got your research but children married into the same bloodline are at high risk for many disabilities. The common one is b...
It goes way, way back much before Bowie...the original goes You remind me of a man, what man, the man with powers, what powers, the powers of voodoo, who do, you do, I do what, remind me of a man etc. I learned this when I was a very young girl. Sue
No, do not drink Efferdant...you will become ill. Sue
Dear nestamar, Your story holds some questions for me...why did your child stay with your parents for 2 weeks? They only reported you when you left your child with them? Why would your mother make up lies? There is still too much that isn't being told...
Just to clarify...it's true precum in itself does not contain sperm but most young males tend to ejaculate several times a day. In fact most to prolong their foreplay will masturbate prior to a sexual encounter so for these purposes we say it most like...
Then the same thing applies...boy or girl...just adapt it to fit. Just so that you are aware, it happens more with males then females contrary to belief. So it's nothing out of the ordinary but something you need to be very cautious of. Sue...good luck
Dear hxcbbygrl69, The best way is to sit down and discuss without fighting why you were fighting. Things just don't go away. You need to figure out why you are arguing and how to stop. It takes two to argue and the best gift to give anyone is to learn...
Dear xxcheeky08xx, Yes, you could be...precum contains sperm. If he ejaculated outside your vagina and since they like to swim it is possible that some has entered. You never engage in foreplay without using protection and condoms. You need to see you...
Dear 20callum0, No, it is not what we would perceive as normal. What you are feeling is for a father figure. This can be because of a few thing...one: your father has not been a big part of your life or two: your father is a very big part of your life...
A child can share a room as long he or she has his/her own bed, is sharing with a child of the same sex (unless under the age of two) and that no adults share the room unless the needs or illness of the child require this. This is a quote from the ...
Dear dncr125, The problem could be the water intake. You should not be consuming this much water. There is a condition associated with over consumption of water and feeling faint is one of them. There was an athlete not so long ago died from over usin...
Dear sadprincess, Yes, every school in every country has problems with bullies. Some schools have very rigid policies about this. All schools have support systems, counsellors and teachers who are able to help. It has nothing to do with looks, grades,...
Dear your_clebertiy_night_stalker, The odd thing is he says now you wont see him much? Is he leaving for college? Moving away? It is sad to give up things that are familiar and there is no need to hold your emotions in. Go a head and cry, there is not...
Dear heartbreaker93, First of all if they say they don't love you...they probably don't. We cannot control another's feelings or should we. You do have a problem if you cannot find happiness without this person. Breaking up is difficult especially whe...