So Many Problems So Little Answers!!
You know what strikes me as odd: soo many people claim to be in love with their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend...but they can't really TALK to them. I mean, why don't you just TELL your boyfriend how you feel (not accusingly, just explain what happens in ...
Emotional And/or Sexual Relationship.
Believe me, sexual "tension" as you called it at age 16, and 17, and 15, and 18...all the teen years- it's pretty darn normal. I think if you go out with someone you'll see that going slow with them is far better than getting some quick and easy sex, t...
Unsubscibe
Wow, forget the question, I just read what you were talking about (the advice) and I have to say it's odd because I gave advice to both of you, and it seems that neither of you are very happy. That's what I said to both of you, don't you want to be hap...
Unsubscibe
The last advice...what? Got Jamie mad, broke up with you saying? Maybe you could rephrase or try again, but I'm not sure exactly what resulted from the last piece of advice you got so I don't know how to help.
Am I Fat/chubby
If you truly were fat, your friends reponse might be something like "oh, well looks don't matter right?" But I don't think they'd say you were skinny unless they thought it was true. If your bmi is normal, you're not fat- it's pretty simple like that. ...
Aching Legs
If you're 16 and not done growing yet, it could be your bones growing faster than your muscles (growing pains) which is normal but can make your legs ache. Also, if you spend a lot of time sitting around your legs may get weak or stiff which could caus...
Torn In Love
Well, you don't want a girlfriend who puts you through hell, obviously- and you HAVE to be able to trust your girlfriend, so it sounds to me like neither of these women are for you. Don't forget that you're supposed to be in a relationship because its ...
Don't Know How...
It's always hard to get over a deep crush, I think you'd know it if you were in love. Even though you can't avoid him, you can certainly avoid being ALONE with him, make sure when you're around him you keep in friendly and there are plenty of your othe...
I Am In Love With My Cousin(100.00%)
This is a tough question for me to answer, simply because I can't really relate to your situation, but I'll do my best. I think at this age when your hormones are raging and crazy and it's hard to find truly close loving relationships, it's easy to fal...
Virginity
It's odd you ask this because I wondered the same thing once, but after asking my friends about it they all say the same thing: If you haven't had sex, you're still a virgin.
Help Me (oral Sex Tips)
I agree with the guy above but only if you mean she's keeping you pleasured for that long, if it only starts to become pleasurable during the last few minutes before you cum then she's probably going to need a few tips. There's nothing wrong with helpi...
Can 14 years Be Negated
Wow. Well I commend you first of all for having a 14 year relationship, I don't think I've ever heard of that before unless it was a marriage! The two of you must truly have been in love, and you still seem to be. Because of all the mishaps and problem...
issues with boyfriend
You seem very unhappy, and Jamie doesn't seem to be treating you well at all (you never deserve to even jokingly be called a worthless piece of crap) there's question of another woman, in the matter: get out. I definitely think if you can't find way mo...
Planned Parenthood?
Planned Parenthood does give free condoms, but because birth control treatments like the pill are expensive and require doctor's prescription I think they can only help you FIND a doctor or a brand and you have to do the rest in that matter (paying the...
Age Difference + Parents
It sounds to me like yes, you are a very mature 16 year old, and it's good you know how to stand your ground when it comes to the sex issue. I kind of agree with your parents in that it will be muuuchh easier to have a boyfriend your age who you can go...
Making Out..
All I can say is that it's perrrfectly normal to be wanting to make out a lot, just as long as you keep the mental part of your relationship strong too. If you feel like you're spending a little too much time making out, just tell him that you love it ...
Hickeys?
Isn't it obvious? It means he liked what you were doing, neck kissing and ear nibbling like she said above^^^ is totally a HUGE turn on for most guys.
Threesome?
I doubt he's starting to like your friend, buuuuut the reason why he probably wants to do that again is because guys have all these crazy fantasies of lesbian hookups and threesomes, and you gave it to him once which is like teasing him, and now he can...
I Am Bulimic please Help Soon(100.00%)
Bulimia is a condition you can't just get over, it's happening because of something else in your life you feel like you can't control. This mental hardship you're going through means you need more help than you can get from your friends or yourself, go...
Askin Out The Girl...
Make sure you like her for real, this isn't just a fling or an attraction. If it's more than that, ask your friend first what he'd think if one of his friends went out with his sister. See his reaction, and if he seems okay with it, then go for it. BUT...
Breakup
If she kept on breaking up with you and then wanting you again, to me that says she's one of those girls who just wants what she can't have. She could also just be too immature for a real relationship, or gets caught up in the beginning stages of a rel...
Clitoris
Why don't you ask her about it? Laughing may just be her reaction to pleasure, or maybe she doesn't find what you're doing pleasurable, only kind of like you're tickling her I suppose. People react to different moves and actions different ways, it vari...
Don't Know What To Do?
When you say he is on this website, do you mean that's the only way you know him? If so, then I wouldn't go ANY farther with this, there are many cases out there where people stalk, lie about their age, impersonate other people, or pretend to like some...
Crazy Boyfriend
I just want to comment that anal is extremely unsafe with regards to infections and tears and problems, I'd avoid it seriously!! I've never done it, but I know there are many risks involved and a lot of the time it's really uncomfortable. As with any o...
What Should I Do To Get Him Back?
Figure out what caused you to stop going out all those times before, so you can figure out a way to change/fix whatever problem there is and hold on to the relationship this time if you decide to try it again. Tell him how you feel, make sure he knows ...
Give Up Or Not?
I think you have to know to ask the right questions. Like, for example, ask WHY he doesn't trust you, or WHY he thinks you would lie about him being the father. Once you get to the root of the trust issue (you have to force him to answer, tell him it's...
Stoner/abusive Boyfriend?
When you say "I have this girl" do you mean you just know her through school, or are you friends with her? If she's just an aquaintence, and doesn't want to listen to your advice, there isn't much you can do. But, if she's one of your friends, try tell...
I Need Help... Soon
I think you need more information on the type of relationship the guy is expecting to come from you, did he contact you just as a friend to see how you are doing? Or does he possibly have some romantic feelings leftover that he possibly wants to pursue...
Jealous Of His Exgirlfriend
You obviously don't trust him well enough right now, if you were snooping in his things, so you can't really be upset he lied about how often he talks with this girl. I think you need to let him know it's okay with you he still talks to her, he's allow...
Fifteen And No Boyfriend
Trust me, it will happen for you. Some things are worth waiting for, are they not? Be confident in yourself and don't be afraid to meet new people, make new friends- enjoy the single life and be glad you're waiting for the right person to come along to...
Give Up Or Not?
I agree completely with zorbot, should you be with a guy who doesn't trust you? Should a man who for some reason thinks you cheated be taking care of his son, who he doesn't believe is his? Finding out WHY he doesn't trust you and having him realize th...
Gf Wants To Get Pregnant
Good for you for knowing you're not ready, 18 is really young and neither of you (I'm guessing) have very stable jobs to help you raise a child, and what about a suitable home? Stay strong, if your girlfriend is trying to force you to have a child with...
I Love Dis Girl
I'm guessing you're still kind of young seeing as you do live with your parents, which means wherever you move you'll still have a while to go before you get to live on your own. Because of this, I'm guessing it also means you already have a life with ...
Sister
What's wrong with missing her? You are allowed to miss your sister, it's normal. She's been a big part of your life, of course you'll miss her. It's important to still keep her in your life, try to still find time to be with her and talk with her on th...
Frenching
Not everybody gets pleasure out of frenching, just try relaxing and starting off with the usual kissing, touching, etc. and then gradually progressing to slow tongue movements, you can let him just use his tongue at first if you're nervous and then jus...
Havnt Had My Period For Several Months
Honey, you'd know if you were pregnant by now. I mean seriously, don't you think you'd be showing? And it almost never happens that pregnancy tests come back negative when you are 3 or more months along. So, think about other reasons to not be having y...
I Just Miss Him And Want Him Back Asap!! Is It Possible??
I'm going to be very honest, and it may not be what you want to hear but you need to hear it. If this guy still loves you and yet is resolute in not getting back together with you after all this effort, his mind is made up because he must believe it is...
I Love My Ex-boyfriend...
If he's moved on, that's a key sign that you should too, you deserve to go on and live your life and have the chance to find someone who loves you back. Lots of people need to break down and talk about evvvverrrything with a bunch of their girlfriends ...
Is It Worth It?
A guy who's immature enough to mess with your feelings doesn't take enough consideration into treating you well, and obviously isn't very sensitive. I'd say it's not worth it, especially cus if you like someone you want them to like you back ALL THE TI...
Im No Lost
You saw him holding hands with another girl, and you're STILL WITH THIS GUY. You deserve someone who is going to love you and only you, so whether you love him or not he obviously does not treat you the way he should. Dump him. He wouldn't do this to y...
Boufriends Birthday This Weekend. Please Help
I ALLLLWWAAYYYS have difficulty finding presents for my man, but I've found the best thing to do is get creative. He's right, you are enough of a present for him, so just think of something a little extra that maybe only you and him will understand, or...
Losing Weight To Slow Or Not
In that case, sorry I maybe wasn't clear enough with my answer: 11 lbs. in 2 months is a fine pace, but there's really no way at all to tell what pace is good because it's different for every single person depending on starting weight, exercise, height...
Losing Weight To Slow Or Not
If you are losing the weight in a healthy way, 11 pounds in 2 months is totally fine. It's all about the intensity, length, and type of your workout and if it's working for you that's great. You're right in the fact that most diets that help people los...
almost 100% POSITIVE that I have ADHD but my parents dont take me seriously
Your parents may not take you seriously because many, many people are being diagnosed with ADHD when really they just don't WANT to concentrate in school or sports, so they use it as an excuse. If it's really become a problem for you, do some research ...
Help I Need To Loose
I just want to add that in all of this make sure you lose the weight in a HEALTHY way and make your top priority being there for your new baby. Joining a gym allows you to talk to other people around you who may have experiences that are similar and so...
God I Dont Know
I sometimes have to tell myself that my parents really HAVE lived many years more than I, they do truly know a lot more about these kind of situations. Try thinking about this from your dad's point of view, don't just block it out. Show him you underst...
Is there a job that a 17 year can get that doesnt involve a lot of people?
What kind of fields are you interested in? There are lots of opportunities at internships that you might be able to find near you, try asking your school counselor or ask your friends if t heir parents know of any internships were they work, if it's a ...
Mind Seems Clouded
How long have you been stuck with this feeling of a clouded mind? If it's longer than a phase usually lasts, than it indicates you've had some pretty rough times in your past that you can't get over. I suggest finding someone to talk to about your past...
13 and never had a girlfriend(100.00%)
You're only 13, if guys are doing illegal or stupid stuff to get a rep with girls it's definitely not worth it. You've got plenty of time to adjust and talk to more girls, don't worry about what other guys are doing and just be yourself.
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You know what strikes me as odd: soo many people claim to be in love with their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend...but they can't really TALK to them. I mean, why don't you just TELL your boyfriend how you feel (not accusingly, just explain what happens in ...
Believe me, sexual "tension" as you called it at age 16, and 17, and 15, and 18...all the teen years- it's pretty darn normal. I think if you go out with someone you'll see that going slow with them is far better than getting some quick and easy sex, t...
Wow, forget the question, I just read what you were talking about (the advice) and I have to say it's odd because I gave advice to both of you, and it seems that neither of you are very happy. That's what I said to both of you, don't you want to be hap...
The last advice...what? Got Jamie mad, broke up with you saying? Maybe you could rephrase or try again, but I'm not sure exactly what resulted from the last piece of advice you got so I don't know how to help.
If you truly were fat, your friends reponse might be something like "oh, well looks don't matter right?" But I don't think they'd say you were skinny unless they thought it was true. If your bmi is normal, you're not fat- it's pretty simple like that. ...
If you're 16 and not done growing yet, it could be your bones growing faster than your muscles (growing pains) which is normal but can make your legs ache. Also, if you spend a lot of time sitting around your legs may get weak or stiff which could caus...
Well, you don't want a girlfriend who puts you through hell, obviously- and you HAVE to be able to trust your girlfriend, so it sounds to me like neither of these women are for you. Don't forget that you're supposed to be in a relationship because its ...
It's always hard to get over a deep crush, I think you'd know it if you were in love. Even though you can't avoid him, you can certainly avoid being ALONE with him, make sure when you're around him you keep in friendly and there are plenty of your othe...
This is a tough question for me to answer, simply because I can't really relate to your situation, but I'll do my best. I think at this age when your hormones are raging and crazy and it's hard to find truly close loving relationships, it's easy to fal...
It's odd you ask this because I wondered the same thing once, but after asking my friends about it they all say the same thing: If you haven't had sex, you're still a virgin.
I agree with the guy above but only if you mean she's keeping you pleasured for that long, if it only starts to become pleasurable during the last few minutes before you cum then she's probably going to need a few tips. There's nothing wrong with helpi...
Wow. Well I commend you first of all for having a 14 year relationship, I don't think I've ever heard of that before unless it was a marriage! The two of you must truly have been in love, and you still seem to be. Because of all the mishaps and problem...
You seem very unhappy, and Jamie doesn't seem to be treating you well at all (you never deserve to even jokingly be called a worthless piece of crap) there's question of another woman, in the matter: get out. I definitely think if you can't find way mo...
Thanks so much everyone, the run went great and I really appreciate all the advice!
Planned Parenthood does give free condoms, but because birth control treatments like the pill are expensive and require doctor's prescription I think they can only help you FIND a doctor or a brand and you have to do the rest in that matter (paying the...
It sounds to me like yes, you are a very mature 16 year old, and it's good you know how to stand your ground when it comes to the sex issue. I kind of agree with your parents in that it will be muuuchh easier to have a boyfriend your age who you can go...
All I can say is that it's perrrfectly normal to be wanting to make out a lot, just as long as you keep the mental part of your relationship strong too. If you feel like you're spending a little too much time making out, just tell him that you love it ...
Isn't it obvious? It means he liked what you were doing, neck kissing and ear nibbling like she said above^^^ is totally a HUGE turn on for most guys.
I doubt he's starting to like your friend, buuuuut the reason why he probably wants to do that again is because guys have all these crazy fantasies of lesbian hookups and threesomes, and you gave it to him once which is like teasing him, and now he can...
Bulimia is a condition you can't just get over, it's happening because of something else in your life you feel like you can't control. This mental hardship you're going through means you need more help than you can get from your friends or yourself, go...
Make sure you like her for real, this isn't just a fling or an attraction. If it's more than that, ask your friend first what he'd think if one of his friends went out with his sister. See his reaction, and if he seems okay with it, then go for it. BUT...
If she kept on breaking up with you and then wanting you again, to me that says she's one of those girls who just wants what she can't have. She could also just be too immature for a real relationship, or gets caught up in the beginning stages of a rel...
Why don't you ask her about it? Laughing may just be her reaction to pleasure, or maybe she doesn't find what you're doing pleasurable, only kind of like you're tickling her I suppose. People react to different moves and actions different ways, it vari...
When you say he is on this website, do you mean that's the only way you know him? If so, then I wouldn't go ANY farther with this, there are many cases out there where people stalk, lie about their age, impersonate other people, or pretend to like some...
I just want to comment that anal is extremely unsafe with regards to infections and tears and problems, I'd avoid it seriously!! I've never done it, but I know there are many risks involved and a lot of the time it's really uncomfortable. As with any o...
Figure out what caused you to stop going out all those times before, so you can figure out a way to change/fix whatever problem there is and hold on to the relationship this time if you decide to try it again. Tell him how you feel, make sure he knows ...
I think you have to know to ask the right questions. Like, for example, ask WHY he doesn't trust you, or WHY he thinks you would lie about him being the father. Once you get to the root of the trust issue (you have to force him to answer, tell him it's...
When you say "I have this girl" do you mean you just know her through school, or are you friends with her? If she's just an aquaintence, and doesn't want to listen to your advice, there isn't much you can do. But, if she's one of your friends, try tell...
I think you need more information on the type of relationship the guy is expecting to come from you, did he contact you just as a friend to see how you are doing? Or does he possibly have some romantic feelings leftover that he possibly wants to pursue...
You obviously don't trust him well enough right now, if you were snooping in his things, so you can't really be upset he lied about how often he talks with this girl. I think you need to let him know it's okay with you he still talks to her, he's allow...
Trust me, it will happen for you. Some things are worth waiting for, are they not? Be confident in yourself and don't be afraid to meet new people, make new friends- enjoy the single life and be glad you're waiting for the right person to come along to...
I agree completely with zorbot, should you be with a guy who doesn't trust you? Should a man who for some reason thinks you cheated be taking care of his son, who he doesn't believe is his? Finding out WHY he doesn't trust you and having him realize th...
Good for you for knowing you're not ready, 18 is really young and neither of you (I'm guessing) have very stable jobs to help you raise a child, and what about a suitable home? Stay strong, if your girlfriend is trying to force you to have a child with...
I'm guessing you're still kind of young seeing as you do live with your parents, which means wherever you move you'll still have a while to go before you get to live on your own. Because of this, I'm guessing it also means you already have a life with ...
What's wrong with missing her? You are allowed to miss your sister, it's normal. She's been a big part of your life, of course you'll miss her. It's important to still keep her in your life, try to still find time to be with her and talk with her on th...
Not everybody gets pleasure out of frenching, just try relaxing and starting off with the usual kissing, touching, etc. and then gradually progressing to slow tongue movements, you can let him just use his tongue at first if you're nervous and then jus...
Honey, you'd know if you were pregnant by now. I mean seriously, don't you think you'd be showing? And it almost never happens that pregnancy tests come back negative when you are 3 or more months along. So, think about other reasons to not be having y...
I'm going to be very honest, and it may not be what you want to hear but you need to hear it. If this guy still loves you and yet is resolute in not getting back together with you after all this effort, his mind is made up because he must believe it is...
If he's moved on, that's a key sign that you should too, you deserve to go on and live your life and have the chance to find someone who loves you back. Lots of people need to break down and talk about evvvverrrything with a bunch of their girlfriends ...
A guy who's immature enough to mess with your feelings doesn't take enough consideration into treating you well, and obviously isn't very sensitive. I'd say it's not worth it, especially cus if you like someone you want them to like you back ALL THE TI...
You saw him holding hands with another girl, and you're STILL WITH THIS GUY. You deserve someone who is going to love you and only you, so whether you love him or not he obviously does not treat you the way he should. Dump him. He wouldn't do this to y...
I ALLLLWWAAYYYS have difficulty finding presents for my man, but I've found the best thing to do is get creative. He's right, you are enough of a present for him, so just think of something a little extra that maybe only you and him will understand, or...
In that case, sorry I maybe wasn't clear enough with my answer: 11 lbs. in 2 months is a fine pace, but there's really no way at all to tell what pace is good because it's different for every single person depending on starting weight, exercise, height...
If you are losing the weight in a healthy way, 11 pounds in 2 months is totally fine. It's all about the intensity, length, and type of your workout and if it's working for you that's great. You're right in the fact that most diets that help people los...
Your parents may not take you seriously because many, many people are being diagnosed with ADHD when really they just don't WANT to concentrate in school or sports, so they use it as an excuse. If it's really become a problem for you, do some research ...
I just want to add that in all of this make sure you lose the weight in a HEALTHY way and make your top priority being there for your new baby. Joining a gym allows you to talk to other people around you who may have experiences that are similar and so...
I sometimes have to tell myself that my parents really HAVE lived many years more than I, they do truly know a lot more about these kind of situations. Try thinking about this from your dad's point of view, don't just block it out. Show him you underst...
What kind of fields are you interested in? There are lots of opportunities at internships that you might be able to find near you, try asking your school counselor or ask your friends if t heir parents know of any internships were they work, if it's a ...
How long have you been stuck with this feeling of a clouded mind? If it's longer than a phase usually lasts, than it indicates you've had some pretty rough times in your past that you can't get over. I suggest finding someone to talk to about your past...
You're only 13, if guys are doing illegal or stupid stuff to get a rep with girls it's definitely not worth it. You've got plenty of time to adjust and talk to more girls, don't worry about what other guys are doing and just be yourself.