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You know, every woman is different. You need to ask your girlfriend these questions and get her custom answer. Blessings and Good luck
If you really really like Michael, stay with him. And dont be afraid that people know. Be proud to be Michaels girl. You KNOW you like Michael. You know how he treats you and that hes proud you are his girl. Jack is an unknown. Why ditch a sure-g...
Im not sure I understand whats happening. Are you talking about a guy your girlfriend met before you started going with her? And now hes asking her to the movies? You need to be straight up and honest with her. Is she going with you or not? If shes ...
Hi Cassy, Use your parents as the excuse. Tell him they dont let you date anyone whose not your age or at the most 1 year older. If he asks if you always obey your parents, tell him well, kind of . . . at least ever since my father had that one guy ar...
I understand you dont want to be the annoyinggirl, but how about the assertive girl? You said: I called him a few times after he got home and didnt leave a message, but he never called back. **If you didnt leave a message, how did he know you calle...
First, I am very very sorry that this happened to you. You were just a little girl and what happened to you was terrible. Second, I understand your pain. I have a similar story. Raped at 9, repeatedly molested as a kid. I felt like I had a sign on m...
You said: HE MADE ME A BETTER PERSON AND MADE ME TOOK A BETTER LOOK AT LIFE ITSELF... ** if this is true then is is something you will take with you for the rest of your life. And something to be grateful for even if it doesnt work out with old boyfri...
What does your therapist say about this? I assume youve told him, over and over, that you are sorry. I assume, you have been doing whatever it takes to help him over this. I assume that you have been acting like a person he can trust since youve bee...
Teesa, it is very hard to give advise without knowing all the background. But here is what struck me in your post. For whatever reason you feel insecure about your guy talking to the neighbor lady. Right? Youve told him this and he turns it around t...
You say: WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO...HOW CAN I SHOW HIM OR LET HIM KNOW THAT IT COULD WORK???? There is no way you can tell him it will work. And you can only show him if you two are together again. And that seems to be all up to him. So your hands a...
Im sorry, you sound like you are really hurting. Im sure you know that suicide is never the answer; its a permanent solution to a temporary problem. So I hope you will either abandon the idea or get help; go to a doctor, emergency room, or counselor ...
There could be all kinds of reasons why your X might date a girl who looks like you. It could be as youve implied--he got a girl who looks like you, but not as good, and hes not intimate with her, never been on an actual date, etc. . . Or It cou...
You have already done alltht you can. You have told him that the two of you could slow down. Now comes the hard part. You have to wait to see what he decides to do. And thats the hardest part. Get yourself busy with some project right now so you won...
There is no such thing as accidental sex. Your penis doesnt run ahead of you with you holding on to it, yelling, No, no. Please dont do that. You made a decision. A poor one, since you know the husband and family. What can you do? Nothing. Keep y...
First, why do you want a guy who doesnt believe you when it is important? You watched a video with his friend, tell him nothing happened and he not only doesnt believe you, but ditches you? Why would a guy that treats you like this be the one you wa...
You are the only person who can help you. If you dont want to talk to your X--dont. You control the arm that picks up the phone and the mouth that speaks to him. Tell the guy you are going with someone else and if he cares about you hell quit calling. ...
Have you asked Sue if she has too much on her own plate to listen to your problem? If not, you are making decisions for her, that are hers to make. Again, you are not lame for wanting someone to to listen to what bothers you [we all want that]....
Hello, you dont sound a bit whiny and I do know how you feel. And I feel what you are saying. I felt every bit this way in high school. And even some years beyond that. I am and was a good listener. I am and was the one everyone when to with their prob...
*You say: Ok i am going out with guy #1 for 8 months. I really like him n i may love him. **Answer: You definitely do not love him since you are wanting to go out with another guy. And you are not acting like you like him much, since you are flirtin...
Id follow her lead while making out. As for her mood swings, thats a behavioral problem. Youll either put up with it or not. Blessings and good luck
Only you can answer this for yourself. And youve learned a hard fact: Sex, love, does change friendships permanently--forever. Your friend with benefits doesnt work because it is set up from the beginning NOT to mean anything. Sounds like you ...
Hey, seven times sounds like a lot to me! So if you dont want to keep doing this, dont. You are in charge of you. Say, no thanks. His past behavior has told you that he will probably break up with you again. Save yourself the heartache and him the t...
First of all, if your age is the number in your name [13] you are way too young to be playing around with boys and letting boys play with you. As for your problem and you admit it is your problem. Telling your bf your body issues will help him unde...
Your questions are: Do u think he likes me (from what ive said)? He sounds like he likes you yes. Love, no. Like, yes. or Do u think hes gay and isnt making any moves b/c he is? I think just because he isnt making moves on you does not mean...
There is nothing you can do about B1. You cant control how other people act or react. He thrives on you being upset about what hes saying. Because hed rather have even a negative reaction from you than no reaction. So if you want to nip him in the bud-...
What can you do? Nothing. You two didnt click at the same time. That happens. You said: Recently I have been feeling like I could have missed out on a good man. He no longer has feelings for you. You cant go back and recapture that time. Hes moved on--...
You dont have any control over what your BF does, or who she likes. But why would you keep a BF who disregards your feelings? [I think she just wants him because she knows I want him.] Is that BF behavior? Also, you stated that the guy is just immat...
Sounds like the honeymoon is over. And thats not a bad thing. The hormones that attract and keep you there for the honeymoon are needed, but now the real love can begin. You are two individual people and you will now find out things that are differe...
No, I dont know you personally, but I know quite a few women who have regrets now, because of frivolous decision they made in the past. How do you get past these feelings for the other man? Look, there isnt a magic pill to get rid of the feelings...
Sounds like your boyfriend is history. I dont particularly like the part where hes yelling at you about your current boyfriend when hes been gone for a year or so. Whatd he think you were going to do? Pine for him? But it does sound like you are not in...
Ask the doc to also check this while at the clinic. But dont worry all females have vaginal secretions--we are supposed to have them.[secretions are usually clear to very light yellow with no smell--unless you dont wash for a couple of days] Problem se...
Hey, you are on the threshold to greatness. Once you honestly come up with these questions, you are really ready to begin the rest of your life. So feel good about where you are right now. Im sure you can look around you and see a plethora of people wh...
This is the beginning to the end of your marriage. Its the prelude, the prequel, the preface of the divorce. Can you envision the look of pain in your husbands eyes? After giving you the wonderful gift of trust you betray him. He sounds like a mature m...
Is this guy taking anyone else out? If not, the only thing to do would be to ask him during one of your movie watching get-togethers. Hey, do you feel like we are just friends? Cause if a guy like you asked me out, Id say YEAH.
No, only you can help you. But since you are in doubt as to what to do, why dont you wait. And see what that does.
Okay, if you are sure your boyfriend has not had sex before, thats in any form--oral included--and thinking that he washed his hands before he played. Heres the poop. Skin is skin--no matter on your nose, penis or vagina. It can get all the diseases...
You need a doctors advise. Are there clinics you could get to? Could you tell your folks you have a period problem or discharge and you better see your doctor? The thing is, if you have to let your parents know in order to get health care--the...
Thatd be one way to find out. But I think a guy will kiss anybody who is willing. Why not take the direct route and ask him. If you are really afraid of what he might say, then maybe you really dont want to know.
Your questions are Can I trust him or should I break up with him before I get hurt I think you have already answered the can I trust him question. Because you whole post tells us that you do not. And if he is openly flirting with an old girlfriend i...
Only you know all the little ways in which you let him know you like him. Stop doing them. I imagine they might consist of you waiting for him to say hi to you and dropping everything to stand with him if he does. Its probably in the little things. Kee...
You answered this question yourself. You said, he told me that he liked me better then her but he dont act like it. Have you ever heard the expression, Actions speak louder than words? Its a known expression because it is true. Words are easy to say--...
I know this is a very shaky time for you. Your boyfriend will be leaving for parts unknown with new people to meet. You ask what should you do? Theres nothing you can do. And your boyfriend is being wise and kind NOT to make any type of commitment ...
Dear Confused, No, you dont live in a dream world so much as a sad world. You sound sad. There is hurt somewhere inside you. Im not sure you can rekindle love for hubby without exploring why you dont love yourself, first. Give it a try--what do you ha...
It makes total sense that you find another guy cute and attractive. It makes absolutely no sense to have another affair. You say you are not in love with you husband? Well, the in-love, attraction stage is a phase that helps you commit to each other...
Just lean in, tilt your head one way, usually the right, let your lips be puckered and soft, and aim for his lips. His will respond and soon youll be on your own. All of didnt know at one time. And the 1st few times may be awkward, but thats okay. Y...
Everything in moderation. He needs to spend time with his friends, just not all the time. You also, should spend some time with your girlfriends--just not the majority of time. IF the amount of time the friends come over isnt the issue--then it is prob...
In todays world sexual harassment is serious business. And in light of that I think this could and should have been handled differently from the beginning. Your husband and the cook are at a disadvantage in a way, and therefore should be the propriety ...
There are some questions I would ask you if we were talking in person. Such as, *1. have you talked to him about this? Not during a fight, but outside of one. *2. Have you told him youd make plans for the two of you for one of your days off? If so,...
The only way this will be the biggest mistake of your life is if you dont learn anything from it. It looks like you have learned a big lesson. That it not only hurts the other person, when you do something like cheat on them. It hurts you just as much....
Youve written here about this guy before, havent you? He may like you, but he doesnt like you enough. What does that mean? He likes you to play around with when no one is watching. He likes you to be in the background waiting for him if no one better ...