Who actually had a good "first time"?
No. It was absolutely horrendous - lots of pain with an inexperienced guy. It got better as I became older and was able to voice my opinions - what I liked and what I didn't.
Where can a felon work?
Hi -
I would suggest visiting a few employment agencies. Most specialize in temp, temp to perm, or permanent placement work. I would explain your situation and indicate that you are in search of a position in which the employer does not perform b...
How does cranberry juice help you lose weight?
Cranberry juice will not help you lose weight! It will help you gain weight as it is loaded with sugar and carbs. Cranberry juice (with sugar) will only worsen a urinary tract infection (Ocean Spray, etc.) If you need cranberry juice to treat a UTI,...
Is it true that once you go black, you never go back?
I have been with one black guy, and I must say HE is still the best sexual experience I have ever had. We broke up a couple of years ago, and I still find myself replaying some of the moments we had. He was the most attentive to my sexual needs, the ...
Does cybersex count as cheating?(100.00%)
Hi there. Yes. I consider cybersex cheating. Many may not agree. Cheating is physical or emotional involvement with someone else. This is especially true if one maintains consistent contact with one's online F*** buddy and it begins to affect one'...
Is he cheating on me?
In addition...if he was indeed crazy about you...he'd go through any and all means to maintain communication with you. This definitely includes online chatting...or purchasing a prepaid phone to hide from his mother. LOL ;o)
Is he cheating on me?
Hi sweetie. Yes, I'd be a bit suspicious. However, if I were you, I'd do the following. I'd call his house during a time in which his mother would DEFINITELY be home. If you hear her in the background ridiculing him for answering or she herself say...
How can I be less insecure in my relationship?
Thank you for your compliments!! I will e-mail the "DUDE" and see if I can get a promotion. I genuinely enjoy helping people and giving the best advice possible. I spend a lot of time on here anyway. Have a great day!
Any ideas for wedding favors?(100.00%)
Hi there!! There is a wedding favor website called "Gifts in Bulk". If you go to www.giftsinbulk.com, you'll find tons of ideas. Their inventory is very creative and reasonable priced. A girlfriend of mine bought her wedding favors off of this site...
What are some good sex positions?
Hi there. Do a Google search on: Kama Sutra. You can find some GREAT books at your Borders or Barnes and Noble with photo illustrations...but the Kama Sutra books are the best. You'll see positions in there that you may have not even known existed. ...
How can I be less insecure in my relationship?
Well thank you very much!!! I've been to two different therapists...and have had many insecure friends and my own bad relationships in the past. All of the above is a mixture of my and my therapists' perspectives. Good luck to you!!! I have a good f...
How can I be less insecure in my relationship?(100.00%)
Hi there! Speaking from personal experience - you must trust him unless you have proof of him cheating or lying. You seem adamant and confident that he loves you. You don't question that at all. This is ultimately a question about what is within yo...
Is my girlfriend having an affair?
She feels differently for you...or she is experiencing something she has not shared with you yet...My first assumption would be that she is seeing someone else. However, you have to also consider whether she is battling personal issues...not at all re...
How do I get over being heartbroken?(100.00%)
Hi there - I wish I could provide you with some miracle that could alleviate heartbreak. However, I can't and no else can. Time is the worst painkiller, and you need to give yourself time. He will always be part of your heart, but at some point you ...
Should I move out so I can see him? (100.00%)
I agree with Lela. If he has hurt you physcially - NO WAY. You are better off without him. Your mom is just trying to protect you. I understand what it is like to be 21 and feel that your mom is dictating your life, when you feel as though you're o...
Should I speak to him after our fight?
Hello - If you miss him and need him in your life, then you should definitely call him. Discuss your feelings openly, rather than giving him the silent treatment. He is obviously thinking about you...Inform him that his comment hurt you. If he cares...
What if my boyfriend doesn't pay attention to me?
Hello - I'd first take a look at the situation. Why doesn't he pay attention to you? Does he not call you? Does he fail to show you any affection? Are you around him all the time? Is he working a lot? Have you been fighting a lot? I would try to...
Does he even want me?
Make a move. Don't wait for him. If you want him, then approach him. Be confident and take control of the situation. The next time you both cross paths, say hello and smile sincerely. Every time you see him (from there on out), you'll at least say ...
Does he still love me or is he using me?
Hello - approach the situation with open eyes and a clear heart. Were you primarily at fault for the breakup? Why did your friends tell you not to trust him? Did he mistreat you? Why did you become clingy? LASTLY - Did he give you a reason to beli...
Do I keep pursuing this girl and how?
Hello - The situation sounds downright frustrating and IMMATURE to me. Too many games!!! This girl and her friend are both immature. You shouldn't have to work that hard for a date. The girl that you are interested in lacks confidence and a brain o...
How do I win this girl over?
There is really no way to win her over - she's obviously confused. She basically cheated on her boyfriend with you, then told you she wanted a friendship, then cheated on her boyfriend again...that's ridiculous. Honestly, she is unhappy with her boyf...
Why do I act weird when I'm alone with him?
You can not tolerate the feeling of vulnerability when you are around him. You disagree with him and challenge him to mask any insecurity or inadequacy that you feel when it comes to him. You may want to ask yourself why you feel this way. Is he arg...
How to stop being so worried that I'll lose my him to college?
Hello - I understand your situation. It must be very difficult for the both of you. The best advice I can give you is to ENJOY eachother while you are together. Enjoy every moment...because once he is gone, you'll regret all of the unnecessary fight...
What do you answer to your boyfriend saying this?
He wants to hear why you love him..Do you love his sense of humor? Does he make you laugh? Just name a few reasons as to why you fell in love with him, why you feel this way about him, and why you don't or have never felt this way about anyone else. ...
Is it OK to feel like you want to die over losing a guy?(100.00%)
Simply put - NO - it is not crazy to feel this way once a relationship ends. Your ex became a part of your life for a duration of time. You became used to his phone calls, his presence, the physical aspects, and the intimate memories. However, in ad...
Is there hope for our rocky relationship?
Oh my gosh! My best friend experienced the same issue. He was the SAME way! When things were great, they were nothing short of GREAT! When he became angry, he was volatile, condescending, ruthless, and downright nasty. She was sometimes in disbeli...
How can I make it up to her that I chickened out of our shower?
Be upfront and honest with her. Communicate with her and inform her that you became nervous and unsure as to whether she'd like what she'd see. At this point, she probably feels uncomfortable because she's not sure if you find her desirable. It's no...
How should I ask him out?(100.00%)
I've asked guys out before! It's a complete turn on to be approached by a confident woman - disregard all of that old fashioned nonsense. Unless he is a total wimp with self esteem issues - he will appreciate it. Since you have been friends with him...
How can I get my best friend back?
Hello - You should be upfront with her. If she is a true friend, she will understand and reciprocate with your concerns. Inform her that you haven't been hanging out as much, and it's affecting you. You should also try to initiate going out with her...
What if I want to keep sleeping with my married co-worker?
This man is a pig. He obviously has no respect for you or his wife. He also uses his good looks and charisma to land a piece of a**. You are definitely the flavor of the month, and he doesn't seem to have an issue flirting with other women in front ...
Is it morally wrong to ask my boyfriend to marry me?
Go for it sweetie! It is not morally wrong! We are in a more modernized society, and you are a woman that know what she wants. I'd plan something romantic - a dinner cruise, candle lit dinner, etc. and ask him. I honestly think he'll appreciate it....
Why do you think my girlfriend kisses me this way?
Ask her. I've dated one black man in my life, and all the physicalities were GREAT! Your girlfriend seems shy...I'd just ask her if she enjoys kissing you...or what you could do for her to be more comfortable with you. Otherwise, it could be a numbe...
Do shampoo and conditioner combos work?
No - those suck. I have tried three different shampoo and conditioner combos just to save $, and my hair becomes tangled. The conditioning affects are terrible. Seperately - definitely!
Why do men act like this?
Correction - BIG TYPO - You SHOULDN'T fall prey to his games! Sorry bout that!
Why do men act like this?
He's a coward and a game player - he's not a man. That's what's up. You worked hard to get him, and he liked it. He enjoyed the attention and watched you squirm. Once you got him, he told you he was scared? Two things - he either has a fear of com...
Is there a way to trust my boyfriend?
How are you ever going to have a fulfilling relationship if you refuse to trust him? If there is no mutual trust, you ultimately have nothing. He is a different person at a different time in your life. I experienced the same issues with an ex boyfri...
How can I fix the pain?
Hello - Ending your life is not the answer. I understand that you are hurt, but your situation is "temporary". Time is the worst painkiller, and you have to focus more on your strong points and positivity. By exuding negativity, you're actually attr...
How do I talk to my boyfriend's family?(100.00%)
Hi - I've had the same issue also. Honestly, I find that it is best to smile sincerely and say, "How are you?" I become shy with boyfriends' family members as well. Just exude confidence - a conversation usually begins after you ask how they are...A...
How can I show him that I don't care?
This guy is indeed a "douche bag". I wouldn't waste my time or effort trying to make him jealous. By posting pictures of you with new guys on your My Space page, you're just making your pain more blatantly obvious. However, if you want to drive him ...
iwannabe_laelaali's Advice
No. It was absolutely horrendous - lots of pain with an inexperienced guy. It got better as I became older and was able to voice my opinions - what I liked and what I didn't.
Hi - I would suggest visiting a few employment agencies. Most specialize in temp, temp to perm, or permanent placement work. I would explain your situation and indicate that you are in search of a position in which the employer does not perform b...
Cranberry juice will not help you lose weight! It will help you gain weight as it is loaded with sugar and carbs. Cranberry juice (with sugar) will only worsen a urinary tract infection (Ocean Spray, etc.) If you need cranberry juice to treat a UTI,...
I have been with one black guy, and I must say HE is still the best sexual experience I have ever had. We broke up a couple of years ago, and I still find myself replaying some of the moments we had. He was the most attentive to my sexual needs, the ...
Hi there. Yes. I consider cybersex cheating. Many may not agree. Cheating is physical or emotional involvement with someone else. This is especially true if one maintains consistent contact with one's online F*** buddy and it begins to affect one'...
In addition...if he was indeed crazy about you...he'd go through any and all means to maintain communication with you. This definitely includes online chatting...or purchasing a prepaid phone to hide from his mother. LOL ;o)
Hi sweetie. Yes, I'd be a bit suspicious. However, if I were you, I'd do the following. I'd call his house during a time in which his mother would DEFINITELY be home. If you hear her in the background ridiculing him for answering or she herself say...
Thank you for your compliments!! I will e-mail the "DUDE" and see if I can get a promotion. I genuinely enjoy helping people and giving the best advice possible. I spend a lot of time on here anyway. Have a great day!
Hi there!! There is a wedding favor website called "Gifts in Bulk". If you go to www.giftsinbulk.com, you'll find tons of ideas. Their inventory is very creative and reasonable priced. A girlfriend of mine bought her wedding favors off of this site...
Hi there. Do a Google search on: Kama Sutra. You can find some GREAT books at your Borders or Barnes and Noble with photo illustrations...but the Kama Sutra books are the best. You'll see positions in there that you may have not even known existed. ...
Well thank you very much!!! I've been to two different therapists...and have had many insecure friends and my own bad relationships in the past. All of the above is a mixture of my and my therapists' perspectives. Good luck to you!!! I have a good f...
Hi there! Speaking from personal experience - you must trust him unless you have proof of him cheating or lying. You seem adamant and confident that he loves you. You don't question that at all. This is ultimately a question about what is within yo...
She feels differently for you...or she is experiencing something she has not shared with you yet...My first assumption would be that she is seeing someone else. However, you have to also consider whether she is battling personal issues...not at all re...
Hi there - I wish I could provide you with some miracle that could alleviate heartbreak. However, I can't and no else can. Time is the worst painkiller, and you need to give yourself time. He will always be part of your heart, but at some point you ...
I agree with Lela. If he has hurt you physcially - NO WAY. You are better off without him. Your mom is just trying to protect you. I understand what it is like to be 21 and feel that your mom is dictating your life, when you feel as though you're o...
Hello - If you miss him and need him in your life, then you should definitely call him. Discuss your feelings openly, rather than giving him the silent treatment. He is obviously thinking about you...Inform him that his comment hurt you. If he cares...
Hello - I'd first take a look at the situation. Why doesn't he pay attention to you? Does he not call you? Does he fail to show you any affection? Are you around him all the time? Is he working a lot? Have you been fighting a lot? I would try to...
Make a move. Don't wait for him. If you want him, then approach him. Be confident and take control of the situation. The next time you both cross paths, say hello and smile sincerely. Every time you see him (from there on out), you'll at least say ...
Hello - approach the situation with open eyes and a clear heart. Were you primarily at fault for the breakup? Why did your friends tell you not to trust him? Did he mistreat you? Why did you become clingy? LASTLY - Did he give you a reason to beli...
Hello - The situation sounds downright frustrating and IMMATURE to me. Too many games!!! This girl and her friend are both immature. You shouldn't have to work that hard for a date. The girl that you are interested in lacks confidence and a brain o...
There is really no way to win her over - she's obviously confused. She basically cheated on her boyfriend with you, then told you she wanted a friendship, then cheated on her boyfriend again...that's ridiculous. Honestly, she is unhappy with her boyf...
You can not tolerate the feeling of vulnerability when you are around him. You disagree with him and challenge him to mask any insecurity or inadequacy that you feel when it comes to him. You may want to ask yourself why you feel this way. Is he arg...
Hello - I understand your situation. It must be very difficult for the both of you. The best advice I can give you is to ENJOY eachother while you are together. Enjoy every moment...because once he is gone, you'll regret all of the unnecessary fight...
He wants to hear why you love him..Do you love his sense of humor? Does he make you laugh? Just name a few reasons as to why you fell in love with him, why you feel this way about him, and why you don't or have never felt this way about anyone else. ...
Simply put - NO - it is not crazy to feel this way once a relationship ends. Your ex became a part of your life for a duration of time. You became used to his phone calls, his presence, the physical aspects, and the intimate memories. However, in ad...
Oh my gosh! My best friend experienced the same issue. He was the SAME way! When things were great, they were nothing short of GREAT! When he became angry, he was volatile, condescending, ruthless, and downright nasty. She was sometimes in disbeli...
Be upfront and honest with her. Communicate with her and inform her that you became nervous and unsure as to whether she'd like what she'd see. At this point, she probably feels uncomfortable because she's not sure if you find her desirable. It's no...
I've asked guys out before! It's a complete turn on to be approached by a confident woman - disregard all of that old fashioned nonsense. Unless he is a total wimp with self esteem issues - he will appreciate it. Since you have been friends with him...
Hello - You should be upfront with her. If she is a true friend, she will understand and reciprocate with your concerns. Inform her that you haven't been hanging out as much, and it's affecting you. You should also try to initiate going out with her...
This man is a pig. He obviously has no respect for you or his wife. He also uses his good looks and charisma to land a piece of a**. You are definitely the flavor of the month, and he doesn't seem to have an issue flirting with other women in front ...
Go for it sweetie! It is not morally wrong! We are in a more modernized society, and you are a woman that know what she wants. I'd plan something romantic - a dinner cruise, candle lit dinner, etc. and ask him. I honestly think he'll appreciate it....
Ask her. I've dated one black man in my life, and all the physicalities were GREAT! Your girlfriend seems shy...I'd just ask her if she enjoys kissing you...or what you could do for her to be more comfortable with you. Otherwise, it could be a numbe...
No - those suck. I have tried three different shampoo and conditioner combos just to save $, and my hair becomes tangled. The conditioning affects are terrible. Seperately - definitely!
Correction - BIG TYPO - You SHOULDN'T fall prey to his games! Sorry bout that!
He's a coward and a game player - he's not a man. That's what's up. You worked hard to get him, and he liked it. He enjoyed the attention and watched you squirm. Once you got him, he told you he was scared? Two things - he either has a fear of com...
How are you ever going to have a fulfilling relationship if you refuse to trust him? If there is no mutual trust, you ultimately have nothing. He is a different person at a different time in your life. I experienced the same issues with an ex boyfri...
Hello - Ending your life is not the answer. I understand that you are hurt, but your situation is "temporary". Time is the worst painkiller, and you have to focus more on your strong points and positivity. By exuding negativity, you're actually attr...
Hi - I've had the same issue also. Honestly, I find that it is best to smile sincerely and say, "How are you?" I become shy with boyfriends' family members as well. Just exude confidence - a conversation usually begins after you ask how they are...A...
This guy is indeed a "douche bag". I wouldn't waste my time or effort trying to make him jealous. By posting pictures of you with new guys on your My Space page, you're just making your pain more blatantly obvious. However, if you want to drive him ...