Lesbian but want kids

I am having a problem. I am a lesbian but I always wanted a daughter of my own. Should I marry a man , so that I can have kids or not? I am really confused. I just want to have a daughter and I know I could go to a sperm bank but is it okay for my child to grow up without a father? Please help me.

Answer #1

You are right you are confused. The bible says that women with women and men with men sexually is an abomination (that means something that God hates) He doesn’t hate the indvidual but the sin. Read Leviticus chapter 18:22 “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination” Romans 1:26-27 “For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature (sexual relationships) : And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly (unnatural annal intercourse) and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

If a child didn’t need a father then why can’t women procreate with another woman or men procreate with another man. How ridiculas to even think that a father figure isn’t important. One true fact most men who become homosexuals do so because they didn’t have a father figure in the home so they try to find it in a relationship with another man. This has been proven through studies on this subject.

Answer #2

Children need a Father influence in their lives - children learn what they live - hope you don’t marry a man under false pretenses/deception.

Answer #3

The divorce rate in the U.S. is about 50%, do you know how many of those kids grow up with little or no contact with their fathers… Yes it is ok for a kid to grow up without their father… kids who have gay parents turn out just fine… Dont worry about society’s rules and thoughts…

Answer #4

what eva you fink you shuld do or just adoped or get a dona

Answer #5

I cant actually believe the posts I have just read!!!

people are sooo narrow minded!!!

all I can say is, dont get married just to have a baby as it wont work, because marriage and relationships arent just a bout kids, its about loving one another and being happy together.

I have a friend that is a lesbian and is in a very loving relationship with her partner. they went the sperm bank route and they now have a gorgeous 4 year old daughter that is perfectly happy!! she was at school with my son, and she is as happy as all the other kids that have moms and dads for parents!

I say go for it if you know in your heart of hearts that its the right thing to do. it does not make you a sinner to be a lesbian mother, but a sinner to judge others!!! so to those judging, I say you are the sinner!!!

good luck fun advice :)

Answer #6

adopt if you go wit a guy you will regret it cause you only went with him cause you wanted a baby and its going against the lesbi standards to do it wit a guy

Answer #7

dont marry and have sex if your not in love your just ruining your kids life

adoptions?

Answer #8

You don’t need to defend who you want to be with. Christians are allowed to have their beliefs, but I don’t believe God has an issue with who you are. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with a woman, and as long as you love your kids, they will be fine. Please stop listening to people who don’t know what they’re talking about. This is the same bible that allows men to beat their wives and people to own slaves…

Answer #9

It’s definitely OK to raise a child without his or her biological father. If you have a loving girlfriend/wife/partner, the child will be loved and that’s what matters.

There are so many children in homes with Mothers AND Fathers that are beaten, neglected, etc. A lot of times religious people will believe that a man and a woman need to be in the marriage and having the kid, but what about abuse? I think love is what matters, and if you love a woman, that’s fine.

Answer #10

You could try adoption but you could also find someone else who simply wants to have a child too. Adoption would make someone’s life better who is already here on this planet, but I can also understand that there are reasons to have your own child as well. As a prior post mentioned (and I reiterate), having a child as a gay man is difficult. You could find a man (gay or otherwise) who wants a child and who wants the same level of committment in the child’s life that you’d want him to have. If you go that route, and if the father will be involved in the child’s life, be sure to discuss how you’ll raise the child concerning issues like custody, discipline, geography (where the child will live), and religious preferences. If you’re looking for a non-custodial father that would still be very involved in the child’s life, I would be interested in talking about it too.

Answer #11

Exodus 21: vs 2-6 “If thou buy an Hebrew servant, six years he shall serve: and in the seventh he shall go out free for nothing. If he came in by himself, he shall go out by himself: if he were married, then his wife shall go out with him. If his master have given him a wife, and she have born him sons or daughters; the wife and her children shall be her master’s, and he shall go out by himself. And if the servant shall plainly say, I love my master, my wife, and my children; I will not go out free: Then his master shall bring him unto the judges; he shall also bring him to the door, or unto the door post; and his master shall bore his ear through with an aul; and he shall serve him forever.”

Slaves, obey your human masters with fear and trembling, in the sincerity of your heart, as to Christ.” (Ephesians 6:5)

“Slaves, obey your human masters in everything; don’t work only while being watched, in order to please men, but work wholeheartedly, fearing the Lord.” (Colossians 3:22)

“Slaves are to be submissive to their masters in everything, and to be well-pleasing, not talking back .” (Titus 2:9)

“Slaves, submit yourselves to your masters with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the cruel. “ (1 Peter 2:18)

“When a man strikes his slave, male or female, with a rod and the slave dies under his hand, he shall be punished. But if the slave survives a day or two, he is not to be punished; for the slave is his money.” (Exodus 21:20-21)

And I can’t seem to find the husbands control their wives by punishment, so either the place I read about that was wrong, or I just can’t find it, but here’s a couple of other things…

“Women should be silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak, but should be submissive, as the law also says.” (1 Corinthians 14:34)

“But if … evidences of virginity are not found for the young woman, then they shall bring out the young woman to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones…” (Deuteronomy 22:20,21)

I am not trying to knock your religion or your beliefs. I simply think certain things need to be put into context… And if you have an issue with homosexuality, maybe you should have the same issue with adultery… Except no one goes around rounding up people who have extramarital sex…

Answer #12

ummm…that’s a tough one. I like the idea of finding someone who would be a father figure in her life. nobody wants to grow up without a father. there are so many kids that need adopting. does that interest you?

Answer #13

Hey I’m Eddie a gay man and I would love to have a kid but it’s really hard for gay men to have one with their own … I’m willing to donate my sperm and be in “the child’s life” if I can have one too… please anyone I really love to have a girl or boy as long is a healthy baby… thanks

Answer #14

Don’t do the sperm bank thing…and I grew up with out a father and a girl needs one maybe as much as a boy would..it is important. I would however say adopt…a child needs a home and a kid is a kid with or with out blood they will love you the same.

some times the best parents are not even your own if you want to be a mother then be a mother. Adopt a kid give some one who needs a Mom a mom. I mean it is perfect you need a kid and they need a parent. PERFECT.

Peace

Answer #15

I know of couples where they used the brother of one partner to impregnate the other partner. That way the child is related to both. Pretty cool idea in my opinion, assuming the family is supportive of the couple.

Don’t marry a guy if you aren’t into guys, you don’t need a guy, just a little body fluid.

When you do IUI gender selection is available. This increases the odds of having one particular gender but it isn’t 100%. Even if you choose to gender select for girls there is still the possiblity of conceiving a boy.

Answer #16

Well, if you marry a man just because you want a child, are you not doing the exact same thing to him that you hate in the men who just wanted sex from you? Be honest with what it is you want and you’re more likely to be happy with the outcome.

If you want a child but you dig chicks, I really don’t think you’ll have much problem finding a guy to get you pregnant and walk away. If I weren’t married, I’d volunteer myself.

Answer #17

Well I have not had a good experience with men. I have had a history of abuse by men so I don’t really want to be in a relationship with men. I find that women are so much kinder and more generous than men. I can really relate to women on a deeper more intimate level than I could with a man. I also have better sex with women than with men. Women turn me on much more and they are so sweet. I can talk about my feelings and emotions to women and they understand, but with men they never listen to my feelings. All they ever wanted was sex! They just make life really complicated and with men I always end up getting hurt in the end, and I don’t want to get hurt again.

Answer #18

no definitely don’t marry a man just for his sperm.. like you said there are sperm banks for that. kids don’t need a father figure as long as they have at least one caring adult in their lives. :]

Answer #19

look… no kids want to grow up without a father. it sucks…trust me, I know. :(

Answer #20

allows men to beat their wives and people to own slaves… << - Please post these verses, thanks !

Answer #21

I think you should talk to god he knows the right answer

Answer #22

ithe kid will not fit in wit the other kids and will b made fun of and will have a terrible life try a pet

Answer #23

don’t marry a man just because you want a kid, I mean you can always go and adopte a lil girl, and just think, you’ll be helping a girl that don’t have her parents, I mean that’s what I would do. hope this helps..

~ Tela ~ xoxo

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